“Ok so look,” he said, “this is one of the biggest parties of the year, get on this flyer come to the club I got you.” My home girl was infatuated with this guy. I never really liked promoters, they were too close to scamming to me. But one thing for sure they made sure your face was on one of those janky flyers. “If she dating me ima, make sure she have bottles.” That is bottles in the club and sitting in a $300 booth for a few ours until his boss tell him ,”they have to move.” Honestly some promoters do have pull like that. But the way they move is not my style. This guy was my homie as well, tall, lean and wore all the Versace shoes as well as Loui. Wasn’t my business if it was real or not. I let him have his shine every time I saw him. In Memphis dating a promoter or a rapper is probably what the women want. They see themselves so caught up in the “Love & Hiphop” life that they will do anything to get close to fame, he knew this. He wasn’t even all that good looking just soaked in designer fashions, cologne and a nice hair cut.
“Your home girl taken?” He would ask me every time he see me buying wings at a wing spot he was probably promoting as well, or even if I’m just on the town hanging out. I never attended a place with multiple promoters dropped in fashion, that’s a key to know that club is not the right place to be. Like club STATUZ for instance. It’s so much smoke in there I hated it. I was so ready to leave and get into the comfort of my home but it was my homegirls birthday. That’s a way to show support. Now he trying to show his behind standing on couches with his designer shoes and order bottles that he has to work off. Terrible.
Ok check this out, you trying to go out with friends, but you have this modern business woman with swag thing going on about yourself. You don’t want to wear the smallest dresses and the same clothes that every boutique has to offer, you want something different, and you want something that fits. My friends meet “The Fedora”
Now now keep calm, the classic fedora doesn’t fit all personal. Your swag has to be on 1,000 to properly wear this hat. I don’t necessarily believe in pivoting my fedora to the side, it’s too 90s and old skool, yet what I do believe in is having the brightest colors and the darkest outfits to compliment the hat. I mean if you’re going to go dark, go dark, if you’re going to set it out with the lights go LIGHT, but here in Memphis it seems the fedora has turnt into a form of “street fashion.” Which is ok, but you have to go urban causal with this hat. This is not a ordinary joe. This hat proves a point, you’re up in your career, your trying to make a “hat statement,” and you just want to go out with friends to chill, the classic night fall or in some cases day time on the city hat. This bad boy is fly.
Will I be coping “The Fedora” modern business woman attire in every color? You dang skippy I will be. The hat proves so many points in how you think or go on about your day. There is nothing like a yellow fedora either. I went out with friends and put this hat on like a smooth criminal. Those around me were amazed you would be surprised at how many people said “I like you swag,” or, “man I love that hat.” Ladies when you sport the fedora you have to sport it better than the men! Like rock it out.
I’ve see so many boutiques with the classic fedora as well that will not properly fit your head. The hat is not meant not to “fit”. If you are wearing braids you have to find one that fits and a lot of our heads are a tad bit bigger than what we are selling. But to conclude the fedora is a classic. You definitely will see me swag it out in more of these with a fuse business woman suits as well, man. This summer swag is going to be fire. I have a few tricks up my sleeves. *smiles*
So now, I’m at the WKND hang suite in Downtown Memphis, enjoying times with friends is the greatest days of them all. My home girl and I decided to go out and enjoy the Memphis scene. Since this spot is not a club in which we are fun of but not too much, we hang here all the time. “Girl, it is some nice looking men in here,” she said. She scopes the room and from the corner of my eye I see this tall guy walk forward. He grabs my hand and instantly I blush. “Wassup,” he said. It’s funny how my whole world turned when this guy looked at me. But after a few seconds of looking at his adoring smile, white teeth and smooth dark skin I knew he was up to no good. “You look beautiful as always,” he smirked. Now I’m not the “go for anything minded woman,” but boy did I go for him.
See in my lifetime I’ve had my time with “players.” But my definition of player is completely different from Memphis. A real player gets what he wants out of a woman and plays all sorts of games. Yet knowing I was a laid back female and not into the business of playing those games I decided to be the ultimate “player,” myself. “You look good too,” I said to him smiling. After a few more moments of talking we hugged and he went on about his night. See the problem with women is we spark players, we give them what they want without them evening working or asking for it. That’s what makes him a player, not talking to multiple women, that’s dating. But helping him complete his motives with the goals of “getting in your jeans,” or buying him something even time, that’s when he becomes a player, and yes sis he played you. This is what they mean by, “don’t hate the player hate the game.” Just don’t get the game ran on you. Girl, don’t be afraid of a player, he’s still a man, like every other man with feelings, treat him as such. Yet, it doesn’t make him any less of a man because he ran game. We just have to be careful. But let’s not forget he did tell me, “I can have anything I want, any woman I want, whenever I want.” Which is true, I believe him. And I can too. I’m not going to stop you from enjoying anything you want, at this mere moment, it just won’t be me. You are still extremely attractive though *sends text message* “lets be friends.” Lol I swear y’all, this is dating in Memphis.
So there’s this friend I have, and she is one of the sweetest people I know in Memphis. Very fun to hang around, very laid back and chilled, men love her but they will date her under one condition, if she decides to have relations with them. Talk about hard for her. With so many men in Memphis and her being one of the attractive ones, minus the likes, it makes it even harder. I think it’s the level of men we choose.
See yes, in Memphis there’s levels to relationships. It’s all about the brackets. Now a days they aren’t choosing any woman or man to be with, it’s a city girl or city boy vibe, it’s either you got it or you don’t. Honestly, in a way, that’s sexually, social and financially. They don’t care if you are more insane to walk outside cold feet with rain, if you have those three above you are in the loop. Now oh I didn’t give you her name, sorry this information is confidential. But she did allow me to write this blog about her so be thankful for that. I once asked her how was it being celibate in a city full of attractive men. The thing is she still hangs out with friends, she still actually talk to men, but she’s never alone with one. Now before hand, she was not this woman. She was sexually active and had every man she wanted, how ever she wanted if you know what I mean.
“I just decided to go for God’s peace,” she said. “These men can’t do a thing for me unmarried, but give me a baby and a massive headache.” Which she is right. She told me about this time one of her closest friends slept with her man and she caught them. I mean, this girl was at her home every night complimenting how good of a woman she was to “her man,” and went behind her back to sleep with him. She even taught the girl how to cook. That is insane, I said to myself then, here you are my friend I’m teaching you all the slopes of being a good woman and you go sleep with my man. Talk about being hurt. So now I don’t know if she is celibate because of past pains and things of that nature, or is it just to be closer to Godliness. I mean she is a constant church goer and works diligently in her community. “You know,” she said, “after catching her with him I wanted to kill her, but that’s far against my religion.” Lol, we know sis, we know.
Ok ok, so before I even get into the in between blog I have to introduce it. This blog is more so like a “Dating In the City” (I hate saying the word sex), the author who meets and greets people and talks excessively about their love life. Ok but no seriously.“The In Between Blog” is what I do in between time. I’m an author so in between my time and my busy day I write short stories that will leave you full of amazement, and boy “They Say That This Is A Big Rich Town.” Seriously I just come from the poorest parts. 🏙 #TheAuthor
So here I am blogging from a downtown condo on South Main Street about a semi-famous female who is having the typical love life problem. Yes this is indeed a semi-“Memphis In The City Episode,” but most importantly this is “The In Between Blog.” Here I will share my most somewhat, entertaining and demanding blog series that will of course keep my reader reading. Now don’t be amazed at how blunt this blog section may be but of course it is interesting. Besides I’m just a blogger in Memphis who knows that everything is all in your head. And who also knows everything (smiles). Lol, welcome my friends, to “The In Between Blog,” and the “Dating In Memphis,” series. I truly hope you enjoy every story that’s written.! Now…..LETS GET STARTED!
Today is the day to unapologetically be who you are without hesitation. So let’s do this exercise. This is more so like a self love piece. For starters, I want you to look in the mirror and find everything “you” like about yourself. Not what someone else sees. Even if it’s your flaws or you just being yourself in general what do you love about you. Thinking deeply about this, for it’s going to make you do a drastic 360 in the way you think. Do you know that we forget to look in the mirror and remind ourselves about us. We don’t realize that we are just vanishing and truly forgetting who we are while forming to this world. We spend so much of our time catering to others and their view yet don’t bother to look and care for self. In actuality this is very hurtful.
Today you are going to find out what it is about you that you truly adore and capitalize off that. Like before, it doesn’t matter if society doesn’t like it you are unapologetically being you. For instance, as a kid I had these huge lips and strong facial features, with big brown eyes. Not to mention I was extremely tall and frail. This made things all the more different for me because all the way to my teenage years, even some college I felt like an outcast of different species. I never unapologetically became me because I was trying to satisfy society with my looks, what I wore and how I acted. Talk about depressing, sad and dark moments, while trying to get validation from someone else. So then it happened, I got tired of trying to keep up with others and did this mirror trick for days. Like training your cognitive of course. After finding what I truly loved about myself I found more, then that conducted into a whole list of ideas and loving examples,as such, that I adored about me. Then, I understood that this here life is about me and no one else. When I truly fell in love with myself, that is when I started adding other people to my world. But remember, it’s all in your head!
“All the Glory and the honor goes to God, he cares for you more than anything else and drives you to be you for that’s who he created, he helped me find me and love her, the girl that was truly lost, herself.” -Kahdejah Evonne Stevens
Or I shall say greetings from the greatest city on earth. Here in this city you can be and become whatever you want. I like to say that Memphis is my….Atlanta. But don’t get it twisted I like to travel. So where were we? Oh yes, I think I haven’t properly introduced myself. See I’m new to this blog thing but then again, I’m not. The great part about it is it’s therapeutic and the most magnificent part about it is it’s my passion. Hello all, I am Kahdejah Evonne Stevens just a psychology professional in the city of Memphis who loves travel, food, blogging, book writing and fashion. Oh and please, don’t forget my podcast “Talks with Evonne.” Yes I’m somewhat a force to be reckoned with, but I say use all the mechanisms to my advantage.
So Really What Do You Do?
Well guys, I own an Anger Management Clinic that will eventually turn into an Outpatient and Inpatient Mental health hospital, that is when I become Doctor of Behavioral Health, Kahdejah Evonne Stevens, if God doesn’t bless me with a husband before then. The name of my mental health services is call Evonne’s Place Anger Management Clinic and Creative Wellness Studios. I have some hidden talents lol but that’s none of your concern, we will talk about that much later but now let’s focus on the ask at hand oh yeah right, psychology and mental health. Something I adore to the fullest, yes I am extremely witty, but that is indeed what most people love about me, my platform and my passion for it is what they adore.
Ok Now Let’s Get To The Fun Stuff
Lol ok, did I tell you guys that I was one heck of a socialist and blogger. I’m also a book author of four of the most amazing books which will result in 9,10,11,12 books in the near future. No seriously, lol. The book that I’m soon releasing is “30 Day Devotion: Restore, Replenish & Reclaim Your Life With God.” Yes my friends is it a Christian book that was established to explain the devotion I have for my Christian Faith, and to help others find God as well. I love God, I just really wanted you all to know that and I am DEEP in the life of being a loving Christian, living for God, following the teachings of Jesus Christ and loving all others around me while doing so. My next book that is already released is “Who I Am,” which sold out on pre-sale but will now be release as “Who I Am: Be Victorious,” a story about everything that I have been through to become the woman I am today, and boy, have I been through ALOT.
But anyway I was just kidding about the socialist I just started back. We will also talk more about that later. But let’s talk a bit about my platform. Yes that’s correct Talks with Evonne and The Author Daily Memphis. You see, all of these things are intertwined. I plan on blogging for multiple companies for all sorts of topics, of course that will be my blogging and content writing career, but Talks with Evonne is my speaking platform career. Through here of course is my famous podcast that’s has 1.3K listeners, now, eventually will have a podcast store. So cool huh, with signified coffee cups, pens, notebooks and t-shirts all for you to see!!
So Tell Us More, How Can We Follow You?
For one, you can visit me at local spots in Memphis, I love to chat! But no let’s get to a quicker way, the power of social media. Yes follow me, shout me out post a few comments I will love it! So mmm.. let’s start. My social media is quite open because I am very motivational and love to give you all these cool updates. Below is a list of my supersonic social media platforms.
Twitter: See me talk and what I’m thinking on a daily, lol @kahdejahevonne
Facebook: Ok we are going to get a little person lol, just kidding follow me @ Kahdejah Evonne Stevens
And lastly Instagram: I love this no really follow me @kahdejahe.stevens
Ok so no lol, I don’t have a Snapchat yet but hey, there’s always an instasnap! I look forward to meeting and talking to all of you look out for emails and always check back here for updates, follow my blog because this is going to get interesting oh and by the way I have some thing great and amazing coming up this summer (rubs hands together). Ok so, it was extremely nice to meet you guys my heart goes out graciously to all my followers, readers. Until next time my friends and as I say be safe, be fashionable, travel, blog about it and most importantly be blessed. Have a good evening and remember it’s all in your head! God Bless.
“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.” -Marilyn Monroe
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton
Hello, and welcome to my blog, The Author Daily Memphis. Here, you will experience a blog like no other, entering the life of an author exploring Memphis, Fashion, Food, Events and other amazing things happening including books to read as well as daily affirmations.
I am a published book author, entrepreneur and young psychology professional with exceptional skills in writing (advertisement, blog setup, book formatting, book publishing consulting and APA college papers readiness, etc), and small businesses consulting.
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Kahdejah Evonne expresses the importance of developing black entrepreneurship and the difference between a entrepreneur and hustle which is tampering black excellence, as well as how to separate yourself from the few.
Kahdejah Evonne expresses “The Dark Phases” of mental health with Chima Onwuka, Psychological influence, suicidal/ depressive survivor and now successful millennial business owner on how you can get out of the mental battle, and continue on to live a happy fulfilling life.
Kahdejah Evonne Stevens raps it up with Gill Finely III, millennial worship leader, about the importance of living through God and transformation within his kingdom. Psalm 149:4 “For the Lord taketh pleasure in his people, he will beautify the meek with salvation.”
Kahdejah Evonne talks about the importance of taking care of God’s gifts and understanding it from Matthew 7:6. “You have to clothe yourself before you can clothe someone else.” -Kahdejah Evonne Stevens
Kahdejah Evonne explains the importance of getting up while breaking genrational curses. For our savior is just a sinner who fell down and got up. We cannot give up on our dreams. No matter the circumstances. Keep going. God Bless.