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Life Coaching 101: “Millennials and Love”

Maybe They Like You Maybe They Don’t“

Maybe he or she likes you, maybe they don’t. It could all be so confusing in today’s society why dating in this generation of people could be so hard. From a psychological stand point, millennials have a very short attention span, yet that is not the only reason it is so hard to date during this time, you as well as your friends, are also sucked into this trans of the fear of not finding the right one. This my friends is for sure why most people are afraid to date. Recently, I finished writing my poem book, “From The Eyes Of A Black Woman.” In this book, there are approximately 27 poems I have written over the span of 2 years that develop a sense of truth from not only my eyes, yet others. To get to the “nitty gritty,” I wrote a poem called “Loving Too Hard.” In this poem it is expressed exactly how one may feel while trying to express themselves in today’s environment of not so emotional yet, extremely emotional individuals.

“Loving Too Hard” from “The Eyes Of A Black Woman”

This generation. (laughs)
Two hearts can be fully connected but stubbornness, sitting in the tub of naive and the idea of commitment will hurt someone before they even have been mentally hurt!
Loving too hard……
We hurt ourselves mentally by overthinking before it even happens, but that’s just this generation
Loving too hard……
We fight for the embarrassment of one
Another’s souls
Other than liberation
but that’s just this generation
And giving to the nation
Of the liberated love
That cures all
This generation. (laughs)
Loving too hard……
Two hearts can be fully connected but stubbornness, sitting in the tub of naive and the idea of commitment will hurt someone before they even have been mentally hurt!
Because this generation is (laughs) Loving too hard……

3 Tips To Use Caution While Expressing Love

Ok since we all are so scared to love, how about we actually practice doing it. Another problem with this generation is we put all of eggs into one basket., we give everything our all and if it doesn’t go our way, we simply stop. Not smart at all people. Humans need love, and there is someone out there for everybody. Yet you have to open up for that someone to come. Here are 3 tips that help you use caution be expressing love in other words, setting boundaries.

  • Knowing What You Want- Ok, this is not rocket science yet this is exactly what we as a whole need to know. We sit and say all day that we know what we want, yet still fall deep into what the other person wants, this is a boundary that needs to be set for yourself
  • Being Responsible Of Your Feelings- As adults, we are not responsible, this is also a way to know what we want. Once we know what we want, we now have to put that into to play, making what we want our responsibility, this is also a great case of self love. As kids, when we didn’t want something and it was forced on us, like eating too many veggies, it made us cry, why, because we didn’t like it! So in this case, you need to go back to what you know, or what you knew. If you KNOW you do not like something, yet still condone in it, and it is hurting you, or not good for you, this is YOUR FAULT. You are not being responsible with your feelings and the blame cannot go on anyone else.
  • Talk About Your Feelings- While typing this, I literally laughed. Speaking about your feelings in this generation is not a cliche. The fact that we have judge one another because of how we feel has created another area of fear for this generation. It is true when your parents and or grandparents say, “close mouth does not get feed.” We are so afraid of how we will be viewed which will also cause us to miss out on love.

The Psychology of Millennials and Love

To sum up, the psychology of millennials and love is practically fear. They are scared, and since pain has happened it has created an anxiety on this generation that controls their every move. Anxiety, is so close to fear as it is happiness. Some millennials, well we shall say the majority, fear happiness, and we also think everything comes easy. Safe to say we can blame that on modern day technology, we LITERALLY don’t have to work for much. Even McDonalds cashiers have machines that do their work for them now. The point of me writing the above poem is to prove that your peers do want someone badly, it’s just the anxiety of it all that is making this whole thing an issue, the fear as to “what’s next,” and “am I really going to be with this person.” The most accurate thing I could tell millennials to do is just date. Date around be your best self and do it with no fear, yet do it with caution .

To listen to my podcast Season 1 Episode 5 “Expressing Love & Handling Rejection,” click here.

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